Wedding Entourage Attire Dilemma: To Pay or Not to Pay?


In the Philippines, it’s common tradition that the couple would shoulder some, if not all, of the expenses of their wedding entourage including their attires. This would of course include both sides of the inner family circle (parents, siblings, nephews and nieces), Maid of Honor, Best Man, Secondary Sponsors, Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, Flower girls, Bearers and sometimes even the outfit of the Principal Sponsors (Ninongs/Ninangs).

But, since time has changed and the notion of “practicality” ensues, these old traditions of shouldering all the cost seemed to be frowned upon by the younger generation. Well, the question is, would that be okay? Or should the couple still follow this tradition? Besides, who on earth “invented” this idea in the first place?

Typically,  young Filipino couples who are planning their wedding these days would opt for budget-friendly, DIY-styled weddings. This practicality would even stretch to the point where the couples would even prefer to use artificial flowers instead of the real ones, or would even rent than go to a designer to have their customized wedding gowns! Just the thought of budget for a wedding is a nerve-wracking experience, so what more if you’ll have to think about extra expenses that you can disregard in the first place?

In our case for example, since both sides of the family were the traditional type and because we’re quite keen with our wedding details, Garry and I decided to shoulder some of the cost of the wedding entourage attires. “Some” doesn’t imply to “all”, so technically, we only paid for what we can and informed our wedding entourage about the other things that we can’t afford to pay anymore.

Although it was quite a tough decision at first, followed by a lot of explaining to do, thankfully everyone understood our sentiments. We explained politely that we are on a tight budget and as much as we would love to pay for everything, we’re only ordinary employees who only lives from paycheck to paycheck. No drama ensued between us and other wedding entourage because even from the start, we were extra careful in our selection. We chose only those people whom we are comfortable with and who were close to our heart. From this, we were confident to know that these people know us very well, who would surely understand our decisions regarding our wedding and who won’t judge us for little things of no true value.


Wedding Music Planner

Weddings will never be weddings without music. Music is present everywhere even through the Prenup videos, AVPs and wedding SDEs that would be played during reception includes music that’s either the videographer’s choice or the couple’s. Music is considered part of the program proper, from the ceremony till reception so planning out the perfect playlist for the wedding is essential to ensure that the event will be more magical!

Below are the things that you need to consider when creating your own Wedding Music Planner.

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How to deal with RSVPs and Guest Lists?

The non-VIP seats for our Entourage and Guests

Dealing with your RSVPs can be a headache unless you plan it out perfectly because realistically it’s not common in Filipino traditions. What’s worse is how to properly deal with them and explain to every single person included in your guest lists that they are important. Unfortunately, even if you pay extra fees for RSVP services since not all Coordinators offer free in their packages, it’s rare to get even 50% confirmation since a lot has to be considered before you’d get their sweet yes!

Below are some of the things on how to deal with RSVPs depending on your guest list type.

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All-in-Wedding Packages or Direct Supplier Booking?

Planning a wedding can be quite daunting especially when you’re on a tight budget. What makes it worse is the added confusion of whether to get an All-In Package from a company or to book the Suppliers directly, DIY style?

Below are some of the pros and cons of the two to give you an idea.

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Wedding Supplier Payments

One of the biggest challenges of a couple planning their wedding especially those who are based overseas like us concerns supplier payments. Since news about fraudulent transactions, security breaches, scammers, and identity theft are everywhere, just like what happened to an OFW couple who got duped by their “trusted” wedding coordinator after getting an All-in-Wedding Package worth around a million pesos has been all over Facebook a year ago. Because of these couples have been doubtful and afraid to transact with strangers especially those that they have just met online, lalu na kung malaking pera ang pinag-uusapan. Trust is something that needs to be built, but can’t be acquired in an instant. But even if unfortunate things do happen, if equipped with proper information, one can ensure that supplier payments can be made without any problems.

When booking event suppliers these days, different portals are being used. Based on our experience (and a lot of other couples that we know), these Payment schemes other than paying cash on-the-spot are great options for couples to use:

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Wedding Supplier Review: VIDLENS PRODUCTIONS

GA vidlens aerial shot

This was a long overdue review because we’ve been waiting for our final wedding film to arrive (after 2 revisions). Although our long wait was over, Brian and his team still exceeded our expectations! Below is our supplier review for our wedding Videographer — VIDLENS PRODUCTIONS

  • Supplier Rating: 5/5
  • Mode of Communication: FB Chat, Email
  • Contact Person: Brian Carambas
  • Package: Ideal wedding package

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Wedding Entourage Roles

There would probably be a time in your life that you have participated in a Wedding as part of the entourage but haven’t really understood the whole context of your “role”. Since Filipino Church Wedding traditions have its own beliefs, it is best to at least get to know them and then decide later on if you see yourselves okay to follow it. As a couple, you have every right to decide which is best for you during your wedding planning, but understanding our Filipino wedding culture is also the best way to give respect to the elders and to our roots.

Us with our Wedding Entourage

Below is the list of the people who will be part of your Filipino Church Wedding Entourage, including the couple. Their description varies but their roles were standard as per Filipino Catholic tradition. For a more detailed information, it is highly advisable to seek your Church for any dress code and age restrictions.

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