Asking people to be part of your special wedding VIPs – your Primary Sponsors (Ninongs and Ninangs), your Best Man, your Maid of Honor, your Man of Honor (for that extra twist), your Secondary Sponsors, your Groomsmen, your Bridesmaids and even the kids, both Bearers and Flower Girls – those who will play a vital role during and after your wedding can be quite nerve wracking. There is actually no specific answer based from our experience since it really depends on the couple and their “closeness” with the chosen potential Primary Sponsor. But remember before you act on it, think a lot of times if your chosen potential ninong or ninang will be really “fit” the role to stand beside you in front of the altar and vow to commit to God to be your second parents not only because your parents said so, or they’re politicians or probably the richest person/couple you know of but because they also embody great values and character traits that you guys respect. This is a huge responsibility that is way beyond the expensive gifts or the thought that you would be rubbing elbows with the rich and famous.
1. Some do it by giving “will you be cards” or “will you be gifts”. If you are the creative type and of course have the extra budget, this is a great idea. You can DIY these cards and give gifts that you made if you have limited budget as well. The options here on how you want it to be done is endless, but again, always consider your budget if it’s within your means or not. Remember, you need to focus more of your wedding budget on the more important suppliers and wedding things later on.
2. Some do it by just chatting with them on FB, inviting through FB event page, sending email, calling them through phone/mobile and/or doing video call if overseas. This is actually quite informal since you did not ask your potential entourage personally (in a physical sense), but if you really can’t be there physically especially if you’re based overseas or your entourage lives far away, this is another considerable good option. Just be sure that when you do it, you do it in a serious and formal tone of action.
3. Some do it by going to their entourage’s house and brought food or treat them to lunch/dinner and say the magic words — can you do the honor of being our Ninong or Ninang? This is probably one of the most traditional, practical and formal way to reach out and ask your potential entourage to be part of your special day. This action gives a sense of strong relationship connection between you, your fiance/fiancee and your prospective entourage. And by the way is what we did.
You can do one or a mix of the above depending on taste and personality, since at the end of the day it’s up to you and your future spouse. Just be yourself, be sincere, think about your budget and enjoy! Happy preps!