Asking people to be part of your special wedding VIPs – your Primary Sponsors (Ninongs and Ninangs), your Best Man, your Maid of Honor, your Man of Honor (for that extra twist), your Secondary Sponsors, your Groomsmen, your Bridesmaids and even the kids, both Bearers and Flower Girls – those who will play a vital role during and after your wedding can be quite nerve-wracking. There is actually no specific answer based on our experience since it really depends on the couple and their “closeness” with the chosen potential Primary Sponsor. But remember before you act on it, think a lot of times if your chosen potential Ninong or Ninang will be really “fit” the role to stand beside you in front of the altar and vow to commit to God to be your second parents not only because your parents said so, or they’re politicians or probably the richest person/couple you know of but because they also embody great values and character traits that you guys respect. This is a huge responsibility that is way beyond the expensive gifts or the thought that you would be rubbing elbows with the rich and famous.
1. Some do it by giving “will you be cards” or “will you be gifts”. This is actually the trend these days, with all the flashy cards being sent which usually contains gifts. If you are the creative type and of course have the extra budget, this is a great idea. Wedding invites suppliers can do this but with a minimal fee depending on the designs that you want. But as an alternative especially if you are on a limited budget, you can definitely DIY these cards and give gifts that you made yourself. The options here on how you want it to be done is endless, but again, always consider your budget if it’s within your means. Remember, you need to focus more on the most important things that you will be needing for your wedding later on. Better be prepared than be sorry.
2. Some do it by just chatting with them on social media like Facebook, inviting through a private Facebook event page, sending email, calling them through phone/mobile and/or doing video call if you are or they are based overseas. Aside from the will-you-be-cards, this is one of the most common things to ask your entourage to be part of your wedding. This is actually quite informal since you did not ask your potential entourage personally (in a physical sense). But if you really can’t be physically there especially if you’re based overseas or your entourage lives far away, this is another considerable good option. Just be sure that when you do it, you do it in a sincere, polite and formal tone of action.
3. Some do it by going to their PS/entourage’s house and brought food or treat them to lunch/dinner before saying the magic words — can you do the honor of being our Ninong or Ninang? Between the two options above, this is probably one of the most traditional, practical and formal ways to reach out and ask your potential entourage to be part of your special day. This action gives a sense of strong relationship and connection between you, your fiance/fiancee and your prospective entourage. It also makes them feel “special” that you exerted the effort to reach out to them especially in this era when it’s easy to just send a message through FB chat for example. Also remember, your Ninongs and Ninangs would be your second parents and by creating a great impression by simply doing this simple thing would definitely mean a lot to them. And by the way, this is what we did.
You can do one or a mix of the above depending on taste and personality since at the end of the day it’s up to you and your future spouse. Just be yourself, be sincere, think about your budget and enjoy! Happy preps!
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Hello, what if the ninang told us last minute that she won’t be able to attend the wedding? Do we need to look for another or can we keep it as it is, but then on the marriage certificate, there won’t be a signature affix in her name?
Hi Kymmie. We had Ninongs and Ninangs din who weren’t able to attend but since we already got them for the role and we already printed the invites, we just kept it as it is.
You can, however, ask if she would like to send someone on her behalf (proxy), so your VIP seats would be filled during the reception.
But, take note that the proxy can’t sign in your marriage contract. They can only represenf your Ninang during the Ceremony such as for the march and photo op; and during the Reception to fill the VIP seats and to give their gift personally.